Crabs in a Bucket

Society holds itself down while it has a hissy fit over things that don’t matter.

Have you ever heard of the term “Crabs in a bucket”?

It describes the practice of crabbers placing freshly caught crabs on their backs into the bucket, legs in the air. They do this because any crab that attempts to escape the bucket will be held down by the groping appendages of the crabs underneath it. An otherwise successful escape foiled by one’s own peers.

It sounds funny and counter-intuitive. What animal bent on survival could ever be caught in such a trap, that a trapper would think of this as a solution?

I give you, modern man.

Some of you may be reading this asking if I’ve just assumed your gender.

Crab, meet bucket.

Yes, today’s trend of looking for problems where there are none is an example of the crab bucket trap. While you’re so busy taking down your fellow man, others are moving closer and closer to success in their lives.

Have you ever seen what happens when somebody grows up in the ghetto and attempts to move out and make better of his or her life? It’s amazing how quickly that person’s peers develop an attitude toward them. Chris Rock said it best when it comes to a black man trying to make his life better. I don’t think I need to quote it, I’m pretty sure you already know what it says.

Despite it being 2017, people still get this attitude. Look at Bryant Gumbel. He gets called in Uncle Tom by his own “community”, because he doesn’t act the way rap music videos would suggest he should. Let’s go even further. This Group of activists called black lives matter is following the same pattern as the KKK, even going so far as to attempt to segregate black people from white people. Weren’t we as humans supposed to be moving forward, not backward?

It goes even further. In Canada, a person can now be fined for calling somebody by the wrong gender. Now you might think that’s pretty simple. See a woman call her ma’am. See a man, call him Sir. Oh, if only it were that simple. Not only do some men get to identify as women, and women get to identify as man, but the community that has caused this madness continues to add more and more varying degrees of gender to their repertoire. Xir, Xur, Zir, Zer, Zur, the list goes on, and you can be fined for mishandling any of them. By the way, my AutoCorrect went insane on me during all of that.

It’s 2017. We should know better than to allow this childish behavior.

Gender fluidity, gender queerness, or even being trans racial. People are finding too many ways to get offended and is too many ways to whore for attention.

Don’t even get me started on otherkin.

 

Insanity like this is causing progress as a society to grind to a halt, while we coddle the feelings of the worst of us. Selfish, childish people are being given places of authority that they simply do not deserve. When the inmates run the asylum, what are the rest of us to do? People like Lena Dunham, an admitted child molester, are given places of cultural influence, where their mental frailty is wielded against an audience of millions, and the mentally ill among them are emboldened by what they see.

The rest of us are being told to simply look on and embrace this brand of progress. Anyone who tries to better himself(I assumed his gender) must first assimilate, or be trampled under the weight(often literally) of various shades of ally who come to ensure that the new wave of fascism is given its due.

In this new age of identity politics, no one gets by on their merits any more. You need to fit into a prescribed box, and hope that you’ve picked the right(left) one.

Meritocracy needs to make a comeback. Your work should be more valuable in the market than your identity. You are more than just your race or gender.

Round and round, the Carousel…

It’s funny to think about, but everything in this world moves in a cycle.

Countries rise and fall, and give birth to new countries. Religions fade into mythology, and new ones pop up to take their place. It’s often been pointed out that the earth goes through heat and cooling cycles, though, those who have money to make from being green will tell you different(HINT: Al Gore’s house puts out between¬†10 and 21 times¬†more emissions than the average home, depending on time of year)

Your life will move in cycles as well. It’s often said that when bad things happen, it’s because you’re paying now for good things happening later. Thing is, if you’re not ready to receive those good things, for example, because you’re a huge shitbag and won’t stop, then those good things might not cycle back to you. In all seriousness, though, have you noticed that when you are in service to others, your life is suddenly more prosperous?

This is something people have forgotten in corporate America. The higher your rank, the more people you are responsible for. Your duties are supposed to increase when you get promoted. Sadly, too many people get promoted and think it’s their ticket to be lazy and have their underlings pick up the slack. This then makes those hourly workers more stressed and worse at their jobs, which reflects badly on the lazy manager.

The term Garbage In, Garbage Out is a popular one along this same vein. It’s concerning just how much negativity is beamed into our homes via the 24-hour news cycle that we then take with us wherever we go. The foods we eat are often fairly negative for our bodies, too. Maybe it’s time to get back to basics.

via Daily Prompt: Carousel

Blame.

Life isn’t all unicorns and rainbows, but, who’s to blame?

Life doesn’t always go as well as we hope it does. Often, just when things are going smoothly, something will happen to muck it all up. It happens. That’s life. What do we do when things don’t go right, though? Often, we look for the reason it happened, and just as often, we fail to look at ourselves.

How often do you hear people blame some outside force for what happens in their lives? There are small things, like blaming the train or bus for your lateness to work; or blaming the dog for eating your homework. Those are small everyday things, and they generally get put into the category of Excuses. The thing with these is that everybody knows they are excuses. Oh, the train was late? You should’ve caught an earlier one. Your car broke down? Maybe you should’ve maintained it better. People don’t pander to these things.

Why, then, don’t more encompassing things get relegated to the Excuses bin? A common one I hear, often used by awful people about why they’re awful, is their upbringing. People without a father growing up are supposed to be given a hall pass to be lower achievers? Apparently, lacking a father suddenly makes you go out and commit crimes or engage in otherwise illicit behavior. Why is the crime rate higher among people raised by single mothers? Should we lay the blame on women?

Of course not. We’re smarter than that. To whom, then, shall the blame fall? A common one is society, or The System. The system is designed to keep people down, they say. It’s especially designed to keep down those of certain racial backgrounds.

I grew up in that system. Moreover, I grew up in the same household as someone who constantly blames the system. Both of us had no father figure. We had the same mother, who was single and went to work. Both of us had the same level of opportunity. He chose gang life and crime. I, while often invited to take part, did not. He’s been in and out of jail multiple times, and I, despite times of extreme hardship, and opportunity to commit crime, have not.

Now, I’m not saying I’m perfect. I have anger issues. I used to punch holes in the walls of my home every day. Thing is, I could have blamed a number of outside forces and not helped the problem. I could have blamed…

The System.

Lack of a father figure.

A negative home environment.

Bigotry.

Rich people.

Bullies.

My depression.

My anxiety disorder.

Poverty.

Instead, I paid attention to my triggers, and instead of trying to rid my life of them, I developed resistance to them. I rarely punch walls anymore, or anything, for that matter.

It might sound a little absurd, but most personal problems can be handled that way. It simply takes a little maturity and introspection. Oh, and patience. Tons of patience.

Maybe a little bit of personal responsibility, too.

It’s easy to talk about solutions to problems. It’s far easier to blame something or someone for them. How often did you hear people blame Obama for their financial woes? How often do you hear people blame Trump for random thugs committing violent acts in the name of freedom? How often do you hear people blame every current president for the country getting worse?

Not a single one of them has a real solution though.

Maybe if they worried about themselves instead of everything they can blame, they’d find a solution to their own problems real quick.

Making a better you takes work, and it takes knowing that the current you is not the best one. Aren’t you worth the work?