The Current State
It’s 2017, and men do not look like they used to. There is no strength, there is no honor, and there is a complete lack of style and substance. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe it has completely gone away, but it has become an endangered species, the Real Man. It wasn’t a quick and noticeable decline either, rather, it was slow and innocuous. Single motherhood, the fight against merit-based systems, and various forms of affirmative action have removed any reason for men to improve themselves. The meta now is to fit oneself into an under-represented group and use that to an advantage.
The Good Ole Days
People look back wistfully at the 1950s, wishing they could they could go back to a time when things seemed safer, when whole families were the norm, when people dressed up just to go out to the store, and when decency was in fashion. Never do I hear, “I sure wish we could go back to the time when black people were second class citizens”, or “I sure would like to be able to beat my wife without anyone saying anything about it”. These were not the values of the 1950s, as much as the left would have you believe they were. A man who sexually assaulted a woman was as much a scumbag then as he would be now. Then, however, he would be attacked. Now, the entire gender is attacked. Collectivist ideals have taken precedence over individual actions.
Identity Politics As A Norm
Never before has a person’s identity being so determined by what he is born as. LeBron James is a legendary basketball player. He is an ingenious tactician, with the energy of a hundred normal men. He is a father, and an example to all young boys as to what a man can be. To the left, however, he is merely a black man, a tool to further a collectivist cause. The left, who calls everyone else out as racist for any transgression, real or implied, is oddly interested in black men only being black men. It’s the same with white and hispanic men as well. Some groups even suggest that everyone is born gay and genderless, and that society forces people into their gender roles. These groups used to be outliers, ignored or outright quashed by force. The internet, and subsequent immersion in echo chambers has emboldened and enlarged these groups. Their implied relevance causes uninvolved people to ally with them, “cause-jacking” to gain the benefits of a group without being a member.
That’s not what this article is about, though. These points are made to provide insight into the leftist mindset for clarity. Leftists believe strongly in identity. They are strongly against merit-based reward systems. A simple google search reveals countless arguments against “meritocracy”, and those same authors, with very little effort, can be found talking trash about “cisgendered white men”, and how “black people are magic”, while they themselves are likely part of the group they are decrying.
Modern men, in an effort to appeal to groups they have no place in, diminish themselves. Effort that could be spent on improvement of self and community is instead used to pander and placate and become more like a given group. This goes beyond mere action. Their bodies change, becoming less masculine and more feminine. The lack of testosterone affects the way they think and speak. Every male that works for BuzzFeed recently took a testosterone test together. The conclusion was predictable.
Males raised by single mothers are statistically less likely to succeed in any merit-based capacity, multiple studies show. That is because a man feminized is not a man.
Justin Trudeau, Canadian Prime Minister and outspoken feminist, recently shamed his sons publicly in a personal piece he wrote for Marie Claire magazine, while also making it clear that he feels male society has it out for his daughter.
I am so exceptionally proud of my daughter Ella-Grace. I love Ella, and I worry–because as a father, son, husband, and citizen, I witness the unequal obstacles women and girls face every day. It’s 2017, yet in Canada and around the world, women and girls still face violence, discrimination, stereotypes that limit them, and unequal opportunities … It is maddening to me that my brilliant, compassionate daughter will grow up in a word where, despite everything she is as a person, there will still be people who won’t take her voice seriously, who will write her off–simply because of her gender.
All of us benefit when women and girls have the same opportunities as men and boys–and it’s on all of us to make that a reality. Our sons have the power and responsibility to change our culture of sexism, and I want Xavier and Hadrien–when he’s a little older–to understand that deeply. I want my sons to escape the pressure to be a particular kind of masculine that is so damaging to men and to the people around them. I want them to be comfortable being feminists.
This pseudo man, a leader of an entire country, is willing to sell his own family out to pander to identity politics. Women already have the same opportunities as men. Lazy people, however, don’t have the same opportunities as hard-working people, and that’s why those who follow identity politics hate meritocracy. Any group that is helped by affirmative action, whether it be based on race or gender, is relying on their identity, and not their work, to keep them gainfully employed.
Men need Work
No man does well when there is not a real adversary to fight. Whether that be a bear in the woods, or imminent starvation, or a project at work, a man needs to overcome adversity to remain stable. Modern men, with their Quixotal(see: windmills) adversaries never achieve true victory and rightly so, are not well. Every puff piece written by a male in HuffPo, New York Post, BuzzFeed and Vox, as well as many other publications, are rife with imagined monsters and insane rambling.
A lack of sunlight and exertion has rendered these house cats neutered.
These piteous males often find themselves in open relationships, the caveat being that it’s only open for the woman. They raise the children of other men, conceived during their own marriage, and count themselves as lucky to get to be in the presence of such a “strong independent woman”. To call a woman “yours” is considered a taboo and will have you labeled a misogynist.
Raise your children, both boys and girls, without an ideology. Ensure that they know how to think critically and can separate fact from fiction. Teach them useful skills. Seeing racism in milk or misogyny in clothing is not a skill. changing parts on a car or balancing a checkbook is a skill. This author’s daughter has been able to change brakes on a car since she was three. She is the least likely candidate for feminism or identity politics.
Children raised without a father are the most at risk. Be a father to your boys, men, and if you’re a woman, get a father for your boys. Independent women create weak men.
Lastly, let boys be boys. Trying to force them to avoid their own gender markers ensures that they will end up weak, duplicitous, and unfit to raise the next generation of children.