Why So Negative?

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It’s strange in this modern day that people take such pride in the negative things about humanity. There is that quote that people often attribute to Marilyn Monroe that goes “if you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best”. I understand, as do many people, the intention behind it. It’s trying to make it clear that people, as a whole, are flawed. The thing is, it’s unlikely that there has ever been a time when people didn’t know that. Everybody knows that every person that they encounter has their own set of problems, difficulties, and things that make them less than perfectly appealing to be around.

“I’m a bitch and I know it”

The problem that has become apparent,however, is that far too many people use that quote and others as an excuse to be lazy about their interactions with people, or to be less pleasant. Most people that are encountered on a daily basis are decent people. They’re willing to have a conversation with a complete stranger, and don’t at all put up a front that suggests that they might have misanthropic tendencies. There are, however, a very few people however, who believe it is their duty to show the world and everyone in it just how crazy or angry they are. They hold it close to their heart as part of their identity. They go so far as to tattoo it on their body. They take any opportunity they can to tell you how “Loco” they are. Facebook would suggest that these people are the majority. Reality makes it clear that this is simply not the case.

I Miss Mayberry

It used to be that people put on their best face when they left the house. No matter what was going on in their home, they wanted everyone to believe that everything was going perfectly. The term “fake it till you make it” seems to apply pretty well here. The glut of TV shows and other media that suggest that every family is a dysfunctional band of misanthropes that has become popular in the past decade or so is disheartening. The Cosby Show was a wholesome program that did not center on race, people’s various mental problems, or disgusting things that people do. Instead it focused on creating good habits and following good patterns. There was even an episode in which Cliff taught Rudy how to mop the floor. Real, actual parenting happened right on the screen in front of all of America.

Full House was another of these shows. Bad things would happen, and instead of succumbing to the difficulties found, the characters would find ways to overcome. Oddly enough, the show featured a family that was far from normal as well, yet they were not portrayed as dysfunctional.

With the advent of Netflix, the show Fuller House has shown that this sort of wholesome programming is not only still acceptable, but popular.

Why, then, do we focus on the negative so readily?

A popular argument that has been bandied about for years is that we crave things that make us feel better about our own selves without having to actually do anything. This is why people still have losers from high school as friends on Facebook, even though they wouldn’t be caught dead associating with them in real life. It’s also why reality TV is such a big deal: we love to watch awful people be awful to each other so that by comparison our somewhat dysfunctional normalcy looks like an example.

That’s great for most people, but what about the ones who actually do go around being awful in real life?

Short answer: some people are just naturally assholes.

The long answer is a little more entangled. Due to Asperger’s, high functioning autism, or simply having had a bad upbringing with useless parents, some people just don’t know how to function normally within society. The problem comes when an Internet and a media full of people like that try to make it look normal, and suggest that it’s actually normal people who are abnormal.

Suddenly, treating people like human beings instead of treating them like statistics is frowned upon. This point will be expanded upon in a future article.

So, what’s the takeaway? I’ve got shit to do.

In short, normalcy is being attacked, as is decency, because those who are incapable or simply too lazy to do it are trying to make their version of normal into everybody’s. It’s just like the Healthy At Every Size movement. They simply can’t or won’t take the effort, and so try to normalize it while stigmatizing anything else.

Oddly enough, they take a lot of effort in doing so.

 

My Road. Or, Escape from Ism’s

I am a 35-year-old man. I have a wife, four kids, and a house. I have worked plenty of different jobs, and have done well at all of them. I have pride in myself, and a desire to bring that feeling to others.

A mere 15 years ago, I was a 20-year-old liberal. I held women on a pedestal, I believed Margaret Sanger and Gloria Steinem were heroes of modern humanity. I believed feminism was all earth needed to make it good. I believed in socialism. All of the liberal tropes, I carried proudly in my heart.

When I was shown alternative viewpoints, I would shy away from them, assured that I was right and that I didn’t need to read them or hear them. They were wrong, after all. A huge rift between my brother and I likely stemmed from that, as I would demonize him for even the slightest infraction when it came to the fairer sex, let alone an expectation that I would, maybe, act like a man!

I was a socially awkward loser. I lived at home with mom. I played video games or had “deep” discussions with my friends. I pined after women, rather than have the balls to go talk to them. I was merely a man, and they were goddesses, after all. That, or they were whores. There is no middle ground for that kind of guy, right?

I hated sports, because I hated competition. I hated the idea that there had to be a winner and a loser. You know who else hates those ideas? Losers. And I was one. Of course I didn’t want a reminder when I could just dominate a video game.

I thought individuality was paramount. I didn’t want to look like everyone else, and I used to have a ridiculous hairstyle. Maybe one day I’ll post a picture of it. If I’d had the money, I would likely have ended up with some sort of piercings or tattoos. Luckily I was too much of a loser to get a job.

I hated Republicans, and thought that they were uneducated religious zealots. I thought guns were terrifying, and ought to be erased from the landscape altogether. I believe that jobs were not simply a means to an end, that instead they were the trap you got caught in. I knew that’s how people got money, but I also knew that no matter how much my mom worked, nothing ever got better. I thought it was due to The System.

I was content, languishing in generational poverty. I was 20 and didn’t have a job yet. I had dropped out of school, because I thought my ideas were more valuable than those of the “System”. I had no money, no prospects, and no plan.

The place were I grew up was a place where people were not simply poor in their wallet. They were poor inside of their own heads. That kind of poor is different. No amount of money can fix it. Have you seen those people who win $100 million in the lottery, and it’s gone within a year? They have no investments, and they’re broke, despite having five Lamborghinis. Those, of course, eventually get taken away.

That’s what generational poverty does to a person. It makes them unable to function with money. The problem comes when people see their poor roots as a source of pride, something to cling to, rather than as something to escape from. They cling to their old ways, fearing that they will lose themselves in pursuit of a better life.

I escaped. I got my GED, and developed a healthy work ethic. I grew into the person I needed to be. I didn’t lose anything. What I gained is my true identity, and a new legacy for future generations of my family.

Aside from that, I crave opposing viewpoints. Knowing what the other side thinks allows you a bird’s-eye view of an issue. Lately, I find that most people’s views stem from selfishness. I know that view very well, as it was once mine.

It’s always going to be a hard road. Why not take the one that will bring you somewhere?

Open yourself up to opposing views, uncomfortable situations, the possibility of mockery and failure. Succeeding at laying down is not success at all.

 

Silencing Your Opponent.

It is important, whether in the world of politics or one’s everyday life, to be able to debate, and do it cogently and elegantly. You must know your opponent’s side as well as your own, and be able to see why they can see validity in their argument, even if you completely disagree. It is important to be educated on both sides of the issue at hand, and be willing to play devil’s advocate to yourself.

It’s important to simply do it at all.

This is a sticking point for most college-age special interest protesters. From blowing air horns at Milo Yiannopoulos speaking engagements, to creating white noise to drown out any rational discussion, to blowing air horns at a Toronto men’s rights talk, special interest groups make it clear that one interest they don’t have is rational discussion. It’s surprising that Ben Shapiro’s talk at Berkeley went off without a hitch, with police actually doing their job and keeping Antifa away. In other news, Berkeley professors are now on strike to protest Free Speech Week at Berkeley.

It’s alarming that people who are supposedly educated, and supposedly educating tomorrow’s leaders, are so invested in the new art of not debating.

I’ll give you a pro tip, free of charge: If you cannot argue your point, whether or not you convince your opponent of your position, without resorting to interrupting noise and a refusal to continue or to let your opponent speak; then your opinion has no value.

Silencing opinions you don’t agree with does not help you grow or learn, and the more quickly people can figure that out, the quicker we can get back to growing as a nation. I encourage everyone who reads my blog to argue with me, and to please seek out the opposite of your own opinions.

If you don’t know everything, you don’t know anything.

My first quote! Tell your friends!

 

Perpetual Adolescence

Something strange to notice these days, is how much time young adults spend trying to remain in their adolescence. A record number of young adults or choosing to remain living at home with their parents, or living with roommates into their thirties. While some of these people have good jobs and contribute at home; not their home, but their parents home, many of them eke out an existence working at a Starbucks or similar coffee shop, or in a music store. They tend to have useless degrees as well, such as sociology, associates level psychology, or the dreaded gender studies. These are expensive courses that put people in terrible that while not preparing them financially to pay that debt back.

These are the people you see protesting all the time. They join groups like Antifa and travel around the country, unwashed and angry. They’ve got the time for it, because they’re not working an actual job. They tend to be very aggressive toward those that promote the STEM fields in school, and try to surround themselves with people much younger than them, more impressionable. 

Psychologist and cultural critic Jordan Peterson calls this a Peter Pan existence. This title makes sense. Peter didn’t want to grow up, and despised anyone who did. Captain Hook was the specter of adulthood, with the crocodile constantly chasing him, ticking, ticking, constantly ticking. A literal form of mortality. Time had already gotten a taste for him, and wanted the remainder.

Isn’t that just how it is though? We spend every day heading toward the end, inevitable and inexorable. We don’t get a choice in it, and yet, among the generation known as millennials, there is an idea that you can remain young until you suddenly wither and die. 

These are people for whom, when they reach their thirties and finally have to open themselves up to reality, things are going to be much harder because of the years they have wasted thinking that they are the ones that know better. These are people who are going to be bitter, angry, frustrated that their reward for trying to change the course of the country will be laboring until their final day.

Those of you who are reading this and have escaped that fate, good for you. Those of you who are reading this, however, and are still paying money into a course that’s only going to teach you how to divide people up into groups, get out before it’s too late. You deserve better, and so do the people around you.

There’s nothing that says personal responsibility better than piloting your life in a direction that’s not going to hurt yourself or those around you.

America the Beautiful.

In this past week, the United States has, in the face of disaster, shown its true colors. Despite the attempts of various groups to paint them as otherwise, the people of Texas have shown us that America is not racist. 

At this point, anyone trying to follow that narrative needs to simply be ignored. If there words spend enough time falling on deaf ears, maybe they will take the time to open up their hearts to the love that actually exists within this country. 

To all of my American readers, remember what a beautiful country you live in. Don’t let her be changed by the ignorance of a few people.

Gender roles and Other Fluff.

It is evident during this disaster of hurricane Harvey and other disasters like it, that gender roles, as much as some people dislike them, are necessary. A picture is going around the Internet right now of a man carrying a woman who is carrying a baby. That is what gender roles are. The man protects the woman and the woman protects the child.

Modern leftists desperately want to erase those roles by telling men that they are dispensable, that they are useless, that they are merely sperm donors; some feminists even go as far as to suggest that men be killed wholesale, with a few kept for breeding purposes. Women, however, need to work and be empowered and be part of the military, etc. Women who stay at home, raising children and providing a stable environment are castigated and treated as enemies to the cause. Children, biologically unable to take care of themselves and make proper decisions, are being tasked with ideas and decisions that shouldn’t concern them for years.

Not Just The Men.

If you’ll notice, The popular leftist groups Antifa and BLM are full of men who are not doing their job. They are full of men who are disenfranchised and emasculated, and they’ve been fed the idea that the system exists solely to keep them down. Thus, they do not have jobs. Getting a job would mean the system wins. Instead they use their time wisely with protesting, closing down areas of universities, and intimidating anyone who disagrees with them.

The men of Antifa have been emasculated by the third wave feminists that they have allied with for years now. They are the classic White Knight. For them, women are on a pedestal. They don’t believe in the establishment, but more than that, they don’t believe in themselves. Terms like “Cis-male” are used as derogatory terms to let them know that by being born with a penis and still identifying with having one as an adult, then they are part of the problem. This is patently untrue, but adolescent boys are taught these things during their teen years via social media. Anyone who stands up to a woman is an enemy.

Their inability to reconcile what they’ve been taught to what they intrinsically are creates a state of cognitive dissonance. In this state, one falls into depression, and is easily manipulated. Their impotent rage is given a focus, and they respond with violence and frustration.

Men are not supposed to be feminists. At best, a man is a distant feminist ally; not taking up the mantle of feminism or buying the T-shirt. A man is simply there to protect the women and children who cannot protect themselves from the men and women who would seek to harm them.

Men are supposed to build and maintain society. Antifa has shown that it only exists to dismantle, disrupt and destroy. Berkeley is a prime example of their propensity for violence and destruction

But The Women.

The women who make up the modern feminist front are brash, vulgar people, unfit for true womanhood. Easily identified by their utter lack of care for their appearance, third-wave feminists are the vanguard for movements like Her Body her Choice, that centers on killing babies at an amazing rate; Healthy At Every Size, which insists that a 400 pound sedentary woman is exactly the same as a Victoria’s Secret model. Antifa member Venus Rosales is an example of third-wave feminism, having no care whatsoever for appearing feminine. Aside from that, she insists on further devaluing herself by acting in fetish porn involving hirsute women. I pity the man she entraps, who finds one of her old videos while trying to relieve himself of his sexual frustration because sleeping with your husband is a big third-wave feminist no-no.

Third-wave feminists are nothing like the feminists who fought for voting rights, and jobs. Those women, who still exist in a quiet minority, treat people around them decently, have good manners, and are educated in something meaningful. Now, they are all permanent adolescents with no plan to grow up. They idolize women like Rihanna and are proud to be called a Bitch. They think gender studies is a viable degree. They will be herding cats in their 40’s.

And The Children, Too.

In recent years, leftists have pushed hard for laws involving children. At first this might sound good, but it is most assuredly not. In Canada, right now, there is a law called the Supporting Children, Youth, and Families Act of 2017. In short, it aims to remove, by force, children from parents who don’t support their chosen gender identity. That means that if a five-year-old boy says, within earshot of anyone, that they are a girl, and the parents don’t immediately bring the child to a psychologist to investigate it further, that the government has the authority to take that child away.

Aside from that, the bill also allows children to be taken away from parents who don’t allow them to believe in the easter bunny or tooth fairy.

Kamala Harris, 32nd Attorney General for California and current Junior Senator for California, wants children to have more say in what happens in the government. This is what the left does. They try to give children the power to change things because they know that rational adults will not accept any of the insane things the left wants.

Word on the street is that Kamala Harris will be running for Prez in 2020. Save the date, folks, it’s gonna be a good show!

They’re Like Animals.

Not all is lost. These fringe groups only account for a thousandth of the population. They, collectively, are a rudderless mass that simply gravitates toward anything that looks controversial, knowing there will be attention. Like a herd of animals moving on to the next food source. Some of them will grow out of it. I did. Some will realize what they’ve done and spend the rest of their life trying to right their wrongs. Some will realize that their need for attention should really be directed at their parents(HINT: This is what happens when you don’t pay attention to your kids), and some will continue to be scumbags because they are narcissists and sociopaths that need weak-minded people to thrive.

I Hate Them.

Not really, though. Just continuing a trope for those willing to read between the lines.

I actually hope that they realize the error of their ways, and choose to warn later generations of the folly of professional protesting. A smart man learns from his mistakes. A wise man learns from the mistakes of others.

Let Millenials be smart. Let Generation Z be wise.

I’m Not With Kap.

In this post, I make the assumption that you already know what’s going on with Colin Kaepernick.

In recent news, there’s been a bit of drama unfolding over the state of Colin Kaepernick’s unemployment. Apparently, no teams will take him. Word is that coaches fear that he will continue to bring his brand of protesting to their field, and possibly break up their locker room chemistry with his opinions.

They fear that they have a lot to lose by hiring him, while not gaining a very valuable player. He’s kind of a hybrid quarterback, rather than an offensive pocket passer. Imagine that. Offensive off the field instead of on it.

Besides that, no one hears him talk about wanting to work. It is instead other people who want him to work. They want someone famous and black(ish) to kneel during the anthem, and get paid to disrespect this country. They want a figurehead to point to when no one will listen.

This one man circus act is indicative of a larger problem with today’s youth, particularly the college age people I’m seeing these days who are unemployed, or not employable. These people are young, but think that they know everything. They are entitled, while they have contributed little.

It is, at its core, a personal issue. These people feel that they can bring their opinions and their drama and their politics to their place of work, and feel that it should be okay to telegraph their issues to everyone they encounter. Moreover, many of them, never having been properly scolded while growing up, now feel that it is an injustice when they are stymied or stifled. Walk into a Whole Foods wearing a Trump hat, and wait for the employee that feels he can lecture you on politics instead of doing his job. These are the same people that would call it a micro aggression when I said ‘his job’.

I hate to be a bearer of ill will, but I hope that Colin Kaepernick does not find a place within an NFL team. I hope he serves as an example to those who feel that they can use their job as a platform for their various idiosyncrasies. It’s time for professionalism to come back.